I believe that learning happens in the most natural setting. It comes naturally to children. Svadhi can sense when I go into a teacher’s mode and I notice that she tends to recoil whenever I want to teach her something. When learning takes place in a natural setting, she’s more receptive and open and welcoming to learning new things.
The book How Children Learn by John Holt totally affirms my belief on learning. When I allow Svadhi to learn at her own pace, I notice flexibility and freedom of learning taking place. I try my level best not to correct her. When she converses with me in her gibberish baby language, I listen attentively and notice that she gets more confident to venture into the world of words. Once when I laughed at her (because it’s so funny and cute when she tried to talk like an adult), she became extremely hurt.
When she pronounces certain words in her own way, I carry on the conversation as per normal. Over time I notice her perfecting her speech without having me to intervene. I could see the sense of achievement she derives from having done something correctly according to her standards. And I don’t want to break it. As she plays around with words, she will smile with contentment when I understand what is it that she is trying to convey. That boost of confidence propels her to further improve her vocabulary without any self-doubts. I believe that by constantly correcting her, I might hurt her pride in the process. I want her to believe in herself and that it’s perfectly okay to make mistakes and she can take all the time she wants to learn something – as long as it interests her.
I uphold the view that I don’t want to be caught in the rat race. I want my daughter to enjoy the whole process of learning. Our surrounding provides every opportunity of learning. One example is that I never taught her how to hold her pencil. She learned it herself at her own pace. I was astonished when I saw her holding her pen one day.
I just want her to enjoy the whole process of learning without minding too much of the end results. It’s crucial to inculcate good values and enhance emotional intelligence. I place heavy emphasis on teaching her how to manage her emotions which I believe will help her greatly later on. I believe that most of the crimes, behavioral problems and substance abuse stem from the fact that we were not taught of how to manage our emotions. That it’s perfectly okay to feel angry, sad, upset etc., and the most important skill to have is on how to manage those emotions. Spiritual and religious teaching play a pivotal role here.
My honest opinion is that children are intelligent beings who need character guidance from the adults as opposed to a structured learning.
Quote from Abraham-Hicks:
Child of mine, I will never do for you that which I know you can do for yourself. I will never rob you of an opportunity to show yourself your ability and talent. I will see you at all times as the capable, effective, powerful creator that you’ve come forth to be. And I will stand back as your most avid cheerleading section. But I will not do for you that which you have intended to do for yourself. Anything you need from me, ask. I’m always here to compliment or assist. I am here to encourage your growth, not to justify my experience through you.
Your children are genius creators who have just arrived from Nonphysical, who are feeling empowered. And if they would be left to their own devices, they would not go astray. They would maintain worthiness; they would maintain their feeling of Well-Being. They would thrive, unless it was taught otherwise to them. In other words, if others don’t do something to change their vibration, they are in a vibration of thriving.
Unless she calls me for help, I try my level best not to interfere with her way of coloring/scribbling/communicating. The only time I step in and correct her is when she does something unacceptable. I try not to coerce her to do anything. If she doesn’t like the sand, just be it. That said, I am only human and have ingrained beliefs and thought processes. When I catch myself being hard on my child, I pause and be aware of my thoughts and actions. Being mindful helps me to get back in track to what I think truly matters. At the end of the day I want to raise a child who is mindful and be able to derive joy in everything she does.
What are your thoughts?