I like being everyone’s favorite. That’s a bold confession considering the fact that I was in denial all these years of my heavy dependence on acceptance by everyone else. After years of dedicated meditation practice, this realization hit me one day. I don’t have to be liked by everyone. And that’s okay. I accept that.
This epiphany liberates me from years of self-induced pain whenever I am not favored by other people. I blamed it on my weak character or boring personality. I self-loathed myself for not being liked by any particular person. Such a heavy burden it is to bear. Such a relief it is to finally become aware of it and to release myself from the unrealistic and unfair expectations from myself.
I started practicing self-care and in the process learnt to love myself and appreciate my uniqueness. I am aware that not being liked has nothing to do with the flaws in my character but rather it is other people’s projection of who they think I am. It doesn’t matter if other people’s opinion of me is right or wrong but what matters the most is my own projection of myself. The ability to understand myself and being able to fully embrace and love the self without any judgement or expectations. It is the highest form of love. For with it we are able to spread the love to others. It’s a ripple effect. It starts from our own center and spreads outward affecting the lives of people around us. I am grateful for this realization 🙂